Wednesday, August 29, 2012

How is the adoption process going?

As much as we love being a family of two,WE CAN'T WAIT TO BE A FAMILY OF THREE!
        Jeffrey and I are so blessed to have such awesome friends and family who want to stay updated on how the adoption process is going. I am sorry I haven't posted lately, but summer is over and real life (going to work, taking two classes, grading, and planning) has returned. Here is what has happened since we last posted.
        Tomorrow, I am going to review the home study draft. As long as everything looks good, I think it will be sent off for approval and then our home study we will be complete. We are still waiting on Jeffrey's doctor's letter and physical forms; I am growing very impatient with them. It has been almost four weeks since we were in for his checkup. Next week, we have to attend adoption training Wednesday night and all day Saturday. We have already done 10 hours of training, but the state of Illinois won't accept it. It is frustrating having to spend more time and more money on something that will probably be the same thing we have already completed, but we have to do it.
         I am trying to stay positive through all of the bumps along the way. Once our home study is complete, we have to wait for the FBI to contact us; we have to be fingerprinted again by the FBI. Even though I sometimes feel we are going much slower than I want, I can see our papers going to Africa in hopefully the near future. Once our papers reach Ethiopia, the real waiting begins. I am ready to start the real waiting.
          The other day, I found myself being a little jealous of a pregnant woman in my class. I wasn't jealous of the fact that she was pregnant, but the fact that she knew exactly when her baby was going to arrive. I know my baby will be in my arms at the right time, but sometimes I struggle with the unknown. I feel my heart growing for this baby who I don't even know yet. We guess if it is a boy or a girl. I think it is a boy; Jeffrey thinks we will have a girl.
           I hope this fills you in a little bit. I wish I could say that more has happened, but as we have told you before this is a long process. Thanks for taking this journey with us. HOPING TO HAVE MORE EXCITING NEWS SOON! We love you.

Sunday, August 5, 2012

Home Visit

Home visit was a success! Besides the fact that Atti (our 3lb yorkie) wanted to growl at the social worker the whole time, our home visit went very smoothly. Thankfully, we were able to leave our office the way that it currently is and not change it into the nursery yet. We just had to show that our house was large enough for our baby, safe, and clean. Many people think the home study is just a one visit thing, but it is so much more than that. The home study is basically a huge document that tells the state of Illinois, the government of Ethiopia, and everyone else who has to approve us who we are and every little thing about us. It is more of a short biography if I had to describe it.

Our home study is currently being composed. We are still are waiting on Jeffrey's doctor's exam, and Jeffrey's employee letter (YEAH! JEFFREY GOT A NEW JOB!) This past week has just been a whirlwind. We have been praying and believing that Jeffrey would receive a full time job in time to submit it to the home study and literally the week that we need it, the job comes! We truly believe that this adoption is something that we are supposed to do, and we have just stood in faith that God would provide and make a way for all of it to happen. There are so many instances already where we have just had favor, and can see God working on our behalf.
We are all brushing up on our knowledge of Ethiopian culture.

This week, we also completed CPR training. Besides Jeffrey hitting the infant's head on the table while practicing the choking exercises, we did quite well =) We really did learn a lot, and I am glad that we had to take the course. I feel like we are becoming better parents through all the reading, classes, and discussions we are taking part in. I knew that it would be different to adopt an orphan from a third world country, but we are beginning to realize things that we never really thought about. Our baby will have never slept by himself/herself, so sleeping in a quiet bedroom may not be the best transition. Our baby will not have experienced many of the sights, smells, sounds, etc that many American babies face everyday; we must be careful not to send our baby into sensory overload. Although we are also hearing many statistics about institutionalized children and we don't want to be ignorant or unrealistic about our child, we also want to be praying and believing that our child will adapt to her/his environment quite well and that she/he will be healthy and safe while in the orphanage.

There will be other post where we are going to go into more details about our transition home, and how we will need the support of family and friends to understand that bringing our baby home will be different than bringing a baby home from the hospital, but it isn't time for those post yet. What we ask you to do now is to continue to pray for us and for our future child. We are growing more in love each day with a child that we do not know, have not seen, and who may not even be born yet.

We thank God for what He has done, and what He continues to do on our behalf. We are humbled and amazed that we are going to have the opportunity to raise a child that did not come to us through my womb, but absolutely came to us through our hearts.

Psalm 37:4 "Take delight in the Lord and He will give you your heart's desires."