Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Monthly Conference Call

Yesterday, we listened to our adoption agency's monthly conference call. I will say that these conference calls can be very discouraging. There hasn't been one referral the whole month of November, and there was only one in October.


With our government and the Ethiopian government both having shut downs, things have definitely been moving slowly. Not to mention that there is now another step that we have to go through with our government. We are praying for a flood of referrals to come soon!

We were happy to hear that several families have cleared embassy and have brought their children home during this drought of referrals. I assure you the referrals have nothing to due with lack of children. There are plenty of children who need homes; they just are paper ready to be placed with a family. This process is confusing, frustrating, and challenging, but we know in the end it will be so worth it.

One thing I am sure about is that I do feel we picked a great adoption agency that has a lot of integrity and does things the right way which may not always be the fastest (sadly there are adoption agencies that are more about the money), but we feel they definitely have the child at their more important interest, and we respect that.

We pray that you all have a blessed Thanksgiving. Thanks for keeping us in your thoughts and prayers. We love you.

Sunday, November 17, 2013

Superman's Mother

Last night, my family watched the new Superman movie. Although most people probably wouldn't really focus on the adoption aspect of the movie, it obviously gripped me. Don't get me wrong, I loved the special effects (especially on my parents' 3-D TV).

In the movie, the story starts in Krypton where Kal-El's parents have to make the tough decision to send their baby to a world far far away. As you watch the movie, you see how this was a difficult decision for his mother. She had after all just carried him in her womb and gave birth to him. She clearly loved her son, but knew he would not make it in their world, so she chose to send him somewhere else.


I think sometimes as an adoptive mother, it can be easy for me to feel the pain and longing for this child who has a special place in my heart, but to forget that adoption comes from a much more painful place than just my waiting. I never want to forget about the woman who is probably enduring so much more pain than I can never imagine. Although I truly believe that adoption is a beautiful story, it does not come without pain, and it is not founded on something lovely. Although it is our first option, I know it is not the mommy's on the other side of the world. Somehow our baby became an orphan and through whatever route that may be, it was not a happy one. Right now, we have no idea who our baby's birth mother is. We won't know if our baby is an orphan due to death/disease or for other circumstances (commonly poverty) until we receive all our papers, but whatever the reason, I want our baby to know that he/she has two mommies that love him/her so much.
This woman who I do not know but hope to meet if she is still alive is so much braver and stronger than me. Yes, I am receiving this baby as my own, but she is giving this child up and trusting me with her own. Though this journey is difficult and I know we have many more challenges ahead, I never want to lose sight that I am not the only one facing challenges in this process. I am so honored to be the one who will be raising this child. I pray for my superman or superwoman's mommy; in my eyes she is the true hero. Please pray for her and for our baby.

*I also loved the adoption story with Superman's adoptive parents, but I don't want to focus on that because I don't want to take away from this post's purpose. Another blog for another time.
 

Saturday, November 9, 2013

STUCK MOVIE

              With November being National Adoption Month, I wanted to   
               provide our friends and family with simply ways to educate
               themselves about adoption and orphans. My goal is to write at least
               one opportunity a week. Some weeks I may get a little ambitious  
               and write more than one!

               This week is easy. All you have to do is watch a movie. Months  
               ago, I told you all about a movie that was being shown in theaters.
               This movie is now available on Netflix. Click here.



You can also borrow the movie from us. We have it at our house. We wanted to have a showing at our house this month, but with Thanksgiving and other prior engagements, it was hard to find the time.

The movie is about four orphans around the world. The film shows how some international adoption laws are making it almost impossible for orphans to come home. There are children who have families who are ready to bring them home, but they are stuck in the orphanages with not much hope to get out. VIDEO TRAILER


Friday, November 8, 2013

Thankfulness

Wow! First of all, I am sorry I have been such a blog slacker. Life has been rather chaotic lately.

As you know, the month of November is a time of year where people express their thankfulness maybe a little more often than other times of the year. People do the daily thankful post on Facebook, they may sit around the dinner table and talk about what they are thankful for, and a wide variety of other ways to show their gratitude. 

At first glance and looking at where we are in the adoption process there can seem very little to be thankful for, but as I look deeper into what we have learned throughout this year, we have so much to be thankful for.

1. We cannot be more thankful for the friends and family who have stood with us as we stepped into this crazy journey. You have prayed for us, encouraged us, and financially supported us. We could not be where we are without all of you! On days that have been tough, some of you have come with just the right words. When we have had fundraisers, you have been the heroes. You have invited others, helped out, attended, and donated. We are so blessed and thankful to have such a huge circle of people who understand what we are doing and want to be a part of it.

2. We are thankful for each other. Although I think I tend to show my emotions about the adoption much more than Jeffrey does, this has been a trying and emotional journey for both of us. Together we have worked as a team and completed hours and hours of paperwork, talked to government workers, social workers, and more. We both also know that we are supposed to be doing this, and that we do have a child on the other side of the world who is supposed to be a part of our family.

3. We are thankful for the lessons we have learned. This process has been more difficult on every level than we could ever imagine. Though it is no where near to being over, we have already learned so much.   
             -We have learned that some things are just completely out of our control, and that we just have to trust in the Lord.
             - We have learned that we need to enjoy where we are right now. We can't constantly be fretting about what may happen or when things will happen.
             - We have learned so many lessons about life and about ourselves. The list could be a blog by itself. 
We are definitely not the same people we were when we started this process.

4. We are thankful for our child. Though we have not met, we are constantly thinking and absolutely in love with this person we do not know. We are so honored to be the parents of this beautiful, unique, and extremely loved child.  

5. We are thankful that we are closer than we were a year ago. Though it doesn't feel like it, and we aren't nearly as close to bringing our baby home as we want to be, we are thankful that we are a little closer. 

6. We are thankful for our adoption agency and for our social worker. Though they are sometimes the bearer of bad news, they have always been honest, and we feel like we are working with trustworthy people.

7. We are also so incredibly thankful for the opportunity our adoption has given us to speak to people about orphans around the world. We pray that our adoption will be encouraging to others who may feel this is something for their family. We also pray that others will see the need to get involved in helping orphans around the world.

In this season of Thanksgiving, I challenge you to look a little different at the difficult circumstances in your life. Though you may not be where you want to be, there are still reasons to stop and celebrate. 

"Give thanks to the Lord for He is good; his love endures forever." 1 Chronicles 16:34